How do you support someone who is struggling with thoughts of suicide?

When we are aware of someone struggling with those thoughts, we get nervous and anxious because we don't know how to help them best. We get in our heads and start worrying about saying the wrong thing or offending them if we don't say anything.

If you've ever felt this way, I want to encourage you by saying sometimes, the best thing to do is just listen. You don't have to have the right words; you just need to be present.

Still, as you're supporting your friend by listening, here are a few things to keep in mind:

Listen to understand instead of listening to respond.

Don't try to fix everything. Hear them out and let them share what's on their mind. Listen to understand and empathize with what they're feeling as they're talking instead of formulating your argument or advice. Practice active listening by giving verbal and nonverbal cues to reinforce that you hear them (i.e., saying, "Hm" or "yeah" when appropriate, nodding your head, etc.). If they're struggling with finding value and importance in their life and feeling overwhelmed with things they might be going through, then just being there to listen is the support they need.

Listen for details concerning a plan.

Once you begin listening, be aware of details concerning a plan of how or when they might commit suicide. If no details or plans are shared, chances are this is just an overwhelming time that they need to process with someone. However, if there is a plan of how this individual would harm themselves or take their own life, seek professional help immediately.

Seek professional help when necessary.

If details are shared about how or when the individual wants to commit suicide, or if you, as the support person, need additional training and support for yourself, please get in touch with a professional immediately. We have licensed mental health therapists at Renewed Counseling who are here for you! There are also several resources available online and worldwide that can provide immediate support, such as the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (988).

Remember: the key is listening. Listen for what's going on, and contact a professional when necessary.

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